DON'T TRY TO MAKE WITHDRAWALS WHEN YOU HAVEN'T MADE DEPOSITS. Itâ€™s really unfair to email people asking them to mentor you when you have nothing to offer them. I know it sounds harsh, but itâ€™s true! I get hundreds of requests for mentoring each year, and the ones I normally respond to (outside of the tip sheet I give to everyone) are the people who say, â€œcan I take you to coffee?â€ The reason is, that small gesture shows that the person believes in a mutually beneficial relationship. I have a good friend who built his entire business off of taking people for lunch â€” even when he barely had the money to do so. And he was able to convince some pretty important people to have lunch with him and eventually fund his business. If you ask him his secret to success, heâ€™ll tell you it was simply asking people to lunch.