Motherhood vs. Career Pursuits: Professional Women Share Their Stories

Professionals talk childbearing, life balance and family planning choices

Jill Williams (Photo: Williams)


Jill Williams, 51, Sales Secretary, Entrepreneur

LEGACY OF NURTURING & INDEPENDENCE: From the time I was a child, I knew that I wanted to be a mother. I had great role models such as my mother, Carnice Upshaw, and my grandmother, Vergie Alexander. They had unconditionally love for family, and they were great nurturers.

It was never in my mother’s DNA to be a stay-at- home mom. She was and still is a very strong and independent woman who enjoyed earning her own income. I even believe that my father appreciated her wanted to work with him as a team.

LIFE CHANGES & DIFFICULT CHOICES: The dynamic of our home changed when I separated from my daughter’s father. Although I had a full-time job, it was imperative to look for a supplemental income. When I took on a part-time job, I worked 13-hour days. I think my biggest challenge of balancing my daughter’s needs while pursuing my career was missing out on events that were important to her. She was a cheerleader in high school, and I missed many of her games.You can’t imagine the guilt I felt, but I had to keep a roof over our heads.

POWER OF TECH: Because I have two businesses (Altadena, Calif.-based Jill’s Chocolates and Sparkle Plenty), I spend most weekends planning my next events. I’m constantly networking via e-mails, Twitter, Facebook etc., to generate and solicit new business.

A FAMILY (BUSINESS) AFFAIR: I’ve considered myself blessed because God entrusted me to be a steward over my daughter. She’s a beautiful and smart young college student. My greatest reward is my daughter’s involvement in Jill’s Chocolates. Her concerted efforts will not only take the business to another level, but I’m hoping one day she will carry the torch.

WORDS FROM THE WISE: Make time for yourself (a little she-time) and most importantly, make time for your children. If you are not self employed, talk to your supervisor and request to shift your office from the job to working home a few days a week. (You will win the best mom award from the kiddies). Lastly, shut down the computer, disconnect the iPad, and power off the BlackBerry or iPhone (once in a while) to engage in fun family activities.


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  • Eva Popek

    Thanking God for your children and your dreams. You have been blessed with such a loving and supportive family for your business. Continue to encourage teens and thanks for your living example.

  • Allison Higgins

    Great inspiration, Summer! Thanks for sharing. I’m impressed with your courage and openness. I think you are destined for greatness!

  • Summer Alexander

    Thank you ladies! It was a rough start but I made it!

  • Erica Hubbard

    Summer Alexander, you are absolutely AMAZING! What an inspiring story! Especially your advice to teen moms… Although your journey hasn’t been the easiest, you’ve endured and pushed forward. Your children are witnesses to your determination and this will do nothing but drive them to pursue dreams/goals of their own. Love it!

  • Summer Alexander

    Thank you Erica!

  • Andre Senegal

    Keep up the great work. Doing big things!!

    • Summer Alexander

      Thank you Andre!

  • Jannie Singleton

    I am already inspired. Thanks for the heads up!

  • chavon green

    Summer you are definitely an inspiration to many, Thank You for sharing your experience and encouraging others to follow their dreams. May God continue to bless you while you pursue your destiny!!!

  • Santosh Purkait

    Hi Summer,

    I salute this spirit of “go and get it” sttitude. This is an inspiration for all. Ofcourse family is priority, but managing career and family is the challange that you have tackeled succesfully.

    May god bless you and your family give you give you more success!

  • Summer Alexander

    Thank you Santosh, God Bless you as well!

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  • Suzette Mariel

    Hi Summer! Keep putting action behind your dreams. You have more than what it takes to succeed. Glad to know you. For more great info about Summer Alexander check out the interview on my blog at