Itās seriously just a manifestation of whatās inside of me. My inner diva came out with an attitude and landed on top of my head. Sheās almost like that crazy best friend thatās good to have around. I love that she is unlike anyone else. I like that on her best days she will block views and draw stares. Sheās sexy and chic and quite honestly, she sometimes says things for me which leave me not having to say it myself. Sheās my best accessory!Ā
Many women of color believe straight hair is better becauseā¦
We live in a world where straight hair is Queen. Itās the standard. Itās all we saw growing up, on TV, in magazines [was] straight, long, flowing, silky, shiny, ādesirableā hair.Ā Meanwhile, many of us have hair that is naturally the oppositeācoily and curly; shrinks up to mask length; and is more cottony than silky. Even a blind man could see what a lifetime of these images could do to a person.Ā And while there are some that would argue that they just prefer straight hairāfor manageability or āit just looks betterāāI can say that Iāve yet to see a naturally curly woman look better with straight hair. Now make sure you let the record reflect that Iām all for diversity and switching it up; I think straight hair is lovely but I just hope that [women of color] can feel as sexy, if not more, with our fros as we do with our hair straight.
None of my success would be possible if not forā¦
My work ethic. Because of the sheer volume of content on the blog, people think that I have a 30-person staff. When in actuality, Iām on my computer 24/7āwriting, editing, watching the forum, working with other bloggers, responding to emails, moderating comments, talking with brands, social networkingā¦ itās a lot to juggle. Without my passion, meticulously structured days and incredibly supportive husband, I would be unable to take on this huge responsibility.
In business you should never be afraid toā¦
Take risks. Enter into mutually beneficial partnerships. There is always someone that does some aspect of your business better than you can. Whenever youāre scared to take risks, remember your first obligation is to do whatever is necessary to provide the best experience for your readers.
Anyone who wants to follow in my footsteps shouldā¦
Always be mindful of why you started the blog in the first place, and who your reader is.Ā I try to remember back to my early natural days and pose and respond to the questions that wouldāve helped me then. Also, focus on providing a quality service. Your consumers are just as smart as you are. Theyāll pick the best productāthe one that provides the most value for the least cost. Itās no different than any other business.
Whatās become clear to me over the years is that most people discount the value of service and wonāt focus on it no matter what you say to them.Ā This is probably because their heart is in the wrong place to begin with. Certainly this is a mistake because you canāt build a magnificent structure on a poor foundation.
If I werenāt blogging I would beā¦
Practicing therapy with more regular hours and of course spending tons of time with the fam. Most people donāt understand that a lifestyle blog is a personal sacrifice. For example, most bloggers take off in late December for the holidays. Of course this is expected, but thatās also when the readers are on vacation, wine in hand and most attentive. I donāt take off, in fact, last year,Ā I blogged more during that time.Ā I hope people appreciate that. Every day you spend thinking about the next article, the next picture, the next story. Itās difficult to live in the moment. So if anything, if I wasnāt in the digital space, I hope Iād be engaging in something that allowed me to really enjoy the present.
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