A personal conversation

There are many books on mastering the art of conversation with others. But what should you read to have meaningful talks with the man or woman in the mirror? Try What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. In it, he shares how proper self-talk can provide “a way to override our past negative programming by erasing or replacing it with conscious, positive new directions.”

Helmstetter asserts that the “No!” we’ve been told more than 100,000 times during our first 18 years of life alone has helped to create an invisible wall between our selves and our unlimited potential. In Chapter 3, “What Works and What Doesn’t,” you’ll learn why the mantras of motivational gurus — “believe in yourself” and “think positively,” for example — don’t sink in with the average individual. In Chapter 9, you’ll study the five levels of self-talk — from “negative acceptance” to “the better you” — before arriving at Chapter 17, “Changing Attitudes,” perhaps the most powerful section of the book. Here, you’ll learn how to override the self-destructive feelings many of us succumb to on a regular basis. Further, it deals with the importance of taking responsibility for yourself and building a healthy self-esteem.

All in all, this is a book that shows you what to say and how to say it. With a little discipline and patience, you will be better equipped with the words that will help you climb out of the pit of negative self-talk.

What to Say When You Talk to Your self by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. (Fine Communications, $6.98)

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