You have many reasons why you’re not working less and making more. I’ve heard every excuse imaginable. No matter who you are and what situation you’re in, there’s one thing that blocks you from working less and making more.
No, it’s not the economy. It’s not your boss. It’s not your business. It’s not your customers. It’s not the government. It’s not your employees. It’s not your mother or your father. It’s not your kids. It’s not your neighbors. It all comes down to one thing: you.
You are the one that blocks your own success. I know, a hard pill to swallow. In order to work less and make more, you must take responsibility for everything in your life. You decided to be where you are today, and you’re the only one who can change it. You see, taking responsibility is the key to working less and making more. It’s about dearly seeing what’s blocking you so you can overcome it.
A huge block that often gets in your way is workaholism. Although workaholism has received a lot of mixed press coverage lately, it still receives tremendous support in our business world. The phrase “I’m working” has an air of success to it. The truth is you’re very often working in order to avoid yourself, your feelings, your family and your life.
In order to work less and make more, you must learn that workaholism is a block, not a building block. There is a difference between having passion for your work and workaholism. That difference is not as much the hours you spend, but the emotional fulfillment you get during those hours. Workaholism feels like being on a treadmill. You keep working and working, but you don’t seem to be getting anywhere. For a workaholic, working gives you self-worth.
Part of being a workaholic is also part of being a victim. When you fall into workaholism, you lose control of your life. You often feel trapped by your responsibilities and believe you have no choice but to work longer and harder. You have to work late. You have to take work home. You have to make the deadline. You have to postpone your vacation for a client. It goes on and on.
I saw workaholism in Bob, an old client of mine. The first challenge Bob had was he didn’t think he was a workaholic. When I asked him why he worked all the time, and I mean seven days a week, at least eight hours a day, he simply said, “I have to.”
He couldn’t understand why his family was bickering all the time about his work. “! support them with the money I make,” he said. “I have to work long and hard. If I don’t, they won’t have the money to do what they want to do. And then they’ll be extremely unhappy.”
Bob tied up his whole identity in work. He believed he was a good father because he worked to support his family. He believed he was a supportive spouse because