As we approach the end of the week, I’d like you to take time and discuss if commitment is a lost art, with your co-workers and friends to get their thoughts.
The majority of people in our society desire to be in healthy, successful and prosperous relationships. Unfortunately, many of them are unprepared for the twists and turns that accompany commitment in a relationship.
In previous generations, there was an emphasis placed on remaining committed even when challenges surface. Contrary to popular belief, commitment isn’t a magical switch that you can turn on and off, but it is a deliberate and dedicated lifestyle a person chooses to live. As I teach during my workshop sessions, commitment is only validated after you’ve been through some sort of opposition.
I know you’re over there thinking, “How can I tell a person’s ability to be committed?” I’m glad you asked. Here are some ways you can begin assessing a person’s capacity for commitment:
1) How committed are they to their family? – People who are uncommitted to those closest to them are a potential risk to you in a relationship. There are exceptions to this assessment, especially if they grew up in an unhealthy environment. However, if a person has never experienced a healthy relationship environment, then how can you expect for them to provide one for you?
2) How committed are they to their friends? – People who cannot keep friends are a potential danger to you in a relationship. There is a reason why they struggle in friendships, so please proceed with caution when developing relationships with them.
3) How committed are they to their job? – A job hopper shows an individual who has their personal interest first and their employers second. This is both a positive and negative characteristic. However, make sure they don’t treat their personal relationships like they do their jobs … hopping to the next best person who appears in their path.
4) Do they show commitment to anything in their lives? – People who cannot demonstrate commitment to anything (school, ministry, coaching, social groups, etc.) in their lives should be avoided until they work out their personal situations. Don’t become the next casualty in their journey, but support them as a ‘friend’ by showing love.
Here are a couple of questions for you to consider as part of your discussion:
1. How do you define commitment?
2. Why do so many people desire to be in relationships when they are unprepared for the commitment?
3. Do you believe commitment is a lost art in our society?
Please share your feedback because I’d love to hear it.
Kenny Pugh is a Life & Relationship Strategist, Author of ‘Can You Do It Standing Up?’, Speaker, HLN Contributor, Host of the Chat Kafe Radio Show (http://www.chatkafeonline.com), singles leader and sought-after speaker on singleness, relationships, finances and life. You can find more information about Kenny at http://www.kennypugh.com. You can follow him on Facebook at Kenny Pugh or on Twitter @mrkennypugh.