Let me offer this quick tip to you as a public service announcement: If you desire a truly healthy relationship with someone, focus more on their character than the amount of currency they make or have.
It seems that in today’s society, there is a lot more focus placed on income and not enough attention on people’s character. Unfortunately, a number of men and women have resolved within themselves to list income as an item on their future mate checklist. God forbid they run across someone who meets the majority of the core areas like love, respect, compassion, etc., but happens to work in education or in a factory. Is someone who meets all of the character requirements, but only makes $30-$50K automatically ruled out?
I know it sounds absurd, but I’m sure many of you have heard of stories where a friend, family member or co-worker may have eliminated someone from consideration because they didn’t make enough money. If you haven’t experienced this personally, consider yourself lucky to not have had to deal with such superficiality. I believe our culture’s infatuation with money and success has been one of the contributing factors to the decline of healthy relationships. However, that’s entirely different topic to deal with.
Money is a medium of exchange that can be used to purchase goods or services. However, money doesn’t have a great track record for buying long-term love or happiness. Notice I said long-term. Each and every day, courtrooms across the country are filled with six-figure income earners and millionaires who have learned that no matter how much money you have, it’s impossible to buy love long-term. Without complementary character and friendship as the foundation of your relationship, the likelihood of relationship success is drastically reduced.
Character is the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of who a person is. It is a contributing factor that leads to the creation of synergies between two people in friendship or more intimate relationships. No matter how long you try to ignore it, a person’s character eventually surfaces and truly defines who they are. No matter how much money a person makes, your relationship is linked to their character and determines the level of happiness you experience with them long-term.
As I often mention in my workshops, evaluate the character of the person you’re involved with without regard to money, celebrity, etc. In general, if you evaluate people based on character and not money, you’re more likely to make better decisions on whether or not to allow them into your life.
Kenny Pugh is a Life & Relationship Strategist, Author of ‘Can You Do It Standing Up?’, Speaker, HLN Contributor, Host of the Chat Kafe Radio Show, singles leader and sought-after speaker on singleness, relationships, finances and life. You can find more information about Kenny at http://www.kennypugh.com. You can follow him on Facebook at Kenny Pugh or on Twitter @mrkennypugh.