Hi, Hater: Squashing Workplace Beef from Start Can Ensure Less Drama in the End

'Love & Hip Hop' star talks managing and overcoming conflict

Businesswomen facing off

How to Recognize Them

Haters come in all forms. They are usually the ones that want what you have. Instead of focusing that negative energy on getting smarter, building work alliances, and creating a more productive work environment, they are the ones snickering at all your success and promotions.

Every compliment is countered with a negative undertone: “Nice samples of your new jewelry line. I see the pricing is low. It must be cheap,” is a statement a hater would make. Or, if ever there’s a time you make a mistake, they run and shout it on the hills as if it’s the hot topic of the day. They are the people who always look at you with the side eye or their lip slightly turned up, usually for no reason at all. They thrive off negativity and foster feelings of inadequacy in all their relationships.

Why They Hate

No doubt this behavior stems from childhood where they are taught to view their own personal appearance, personal value and worth with a critical eye, never quite measuring up. Bottom line, they have personal issues within themselves that most likely stem from jealousy, bitterness, inferiority, anger]and shame.

There are a number of causes behind a person being a hater and having negative attitudes in the workplace or their personal life. The foremost among these is dissatisfaction with the way their life is going or has shaped up. If a person is in an unfulfilling relationship, or if they find themselves pursuing a profession they are least interested in, they are bound to feel frustrated and develop negative feelings.

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  • Succesful Sim

    I would like to commend you Yandy for being such a positive energy, and such an intelligent and classy professional…..that “keeps it classy at all times”. I’m very impressed with your articles and this one in particular regarding the workplace haters is on point. Unfortunately,I can totally relate to these experiences and have persevered . It’s unfortunate that we have to go through these experiences in the workplace however it’s all too common. Keep up the great articles! Look forward to the future articles. They are a welcomed attention to Black Enterprise.

  • Jessica

    I really enjoyed reading this article and I think that its one that many business people should read. I am a senior in college and interning right now, I see the office drama day in and day out. I believe that your ill feelings towards someone should be left out of the workplace however, if they enter it they should be handled accordingly. It should not be obvious to everyone around you that you have an issue with one of your co-workers. Because that the end of the day everyone has a job and a purpose and hating on the next person is not your purpose or what you were hired to do.

  • Chris

    Earl Graves, Sr. and Earl Graves, Jr.! Are you kidding me? Or shall I say the current over used phrase question…..Really?! Yandy Smith? You let her give “advice” on negativity in the workplace.The magazine states she was to give tips for entrepreneurial success. That article was about her personal experience on “Love and Hip Hop” and the negative environment that she partly created. You can just read the twenty something year old hot head attitude. I agree that she has been successful. She is a very pretty young lady. I just wish she would use her positive attributes in every phase, even when the camera is rolling. Bottom line the blog was as it was advertised. BE simply took advantage of Yandy’s popularity from the “Love And Hip Hop” show. Get it rightnext time! Graves Sr., you are still my idol!

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