Janice Bryant Howroyd, chief executive officer of Act 1 Group, always knew she wanted to start a family, but her plan to advance in her career was also at the top of her list. After several years of caring for her now over 30-year-old business and achieving financial stability, the founder of America’s largest black female-owned company and her husband, Bernard Howroyd, began their family of four.
The common perception that women in positions of power have to choose between their career and the joys of motherhood is history. “We’re moving past the idea that the woman’s place is in the home,” says organizational psychologist Dr. Debra A. Major. “Women don’t have to make an either/or choice. You can be both [a mother and executive].”
Currently, there are 12 female CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, 11 of which are mothers, according to a recent WSJ.com article published last month. Xerox Corp. CEO and mother of two, Ursula M. Burns, is the only black woman on the list. BE women of power such as Rosalind G. Brewer, Sheila C. Johnson and Debra Lee are all mothers. So, how do these exec moms do it?
“I don’t recall a day of my career when I felt that the balance was 50-50 in relationship to being a mother versus businessperson,” says Bryant Howroyd, who attributes motherhood with sharpening her business perspective and temperament. “What I have done is made sure that the sum is right, and forgive myself when I don’t get it exactly as I would want it.”
Her children, Katharyn and Brett, who are in their mid-twenties, attribute their mother’s style of parenthood—the business trips, nighttime prayers via phone and all—with their independence and value of homecoming.
The CEO-mom-turned-author (of The Art of Work:How To Make Work, Work For You!) offers three tips to managing exec life and motherhood:
- Me, myself and I time is essential.“Whether we’re talking about faith, work or personal relationships, taking care of yourself is so important,” says the devout family woman.
- It takes a village to raise a child. She credits her close-knit family with providing mental, physical and spiritual support.
- Always be yourself. “Never compromise who you are personally to become who you wish to be professionally,” adds the business and community leader.
Bonus: Face it, you’re not superwoman.“A lot of women get stressed out wanting to do everything in all their roles perfectly,” says Old Dominion University professor, Dr. Major. Now, we all know that is impossible.