Over the last year, Iâ€™ve been taking a deep look at what I did in the past, why I do what I do now, and what it truly means to reach my full potential in a way thatâ€™s authentic to my true identity.
In school, I was in the top 1%, in terms of standardized tests, grades, etc. So, I naturally took that on as my identity; what made me special and the place I was â€śsupposedâ€ť to be. But looking back, I donâ€™t believe I was living in congruence with my true self. I was smart enough and disciplined enough to make academic results happen, but my true self is very tenderhearted and would have rather spent time with people than accomplishing tasks. I would have felt a lot more like myself in high school had I gotten some Aâ€™s and Bâ€™s while still finding the time to cultivate deeper relationships.
Over the years, itâ€™s been exciting to see the relational part of me develop more and more, as I allow the labels of â€śhigh achiever,Â successful, top performer,â€ť etc., to fall off.
Likewise, youâ€™re not a set of labels. Youâ€™re you.
Your sense of identity drives your behavior. So when youâ€™re confused about who you are, you can have a lot of confusion about how you should invest your time.
A few signs that thereâ€™s a conflict between who you think you need to be and who youÂ actually are, particularly at work, include:
- Dreading going into the office
- Feeling drained by the majority of the work you do
Elizabeth Grace Saunders is the founder and CEO of Real Life EÂ®, a time coaching and training company, and the author of “The 3 Secrets to Effective Time Investment: How to Achieve More Success With Less Stress” andÂ “How to Invest Your Time Like Money.”
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