Four Ways to Find Self-Acceptance

Don't feel bad about yourself just because your circumstance isn't ideal

Believe in your own self-worth

Everyone finds him or herself in a slump sometimes; when they are not feeling the best about themselves. However, self-love can be cultivated by following these four tips.

1.    Know the world needs you. Someone at some point will rely on your distinct abilities and skills. “When people need you, you think, ‘Wow, I’m worthwhile just as I am,’” says Pamela Everett Thompson, a psychologist and life coach based in Atlanta. Whether it’s identifying new career options or volunteering, just knowing where and how you can positively impact others will jumpstart your feelings of self-worth.

2.    Acknowledge your shortcomings. While it’s important to focus on your strengths and what you are grateful for, be real about the things that don’t make you happy. It’s okay to admit that there’s something you want to change. Pretending everything is great can do more harm than good, says Thompson. She adds, “You use so much energy when you try to hide problems from yourself.”

3.    Don’t get stuck in acceptance. There’s a difference between accepting yourself despite your current situation and resigning yourself to the fact that things are destined to stay the way they are. “Tell yourself to accept the situation just for today, but do something today to change your life at the same time,” says Francine Ward, a California-based self-esteem coach and copyright trademark attorney.

4.    Be willing to be uncomfortable. No one will feel good all the time. Regardless of what your goal is, “you don’t get from point A to point B overnight,” reminds Ward. But when we believe we don’t deserve happiness until we’ve achieved our goals, we’re practicing self-loathing. Self-love is about being okay with yourself before, during, and after you set out on your journey.

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  • http://www.mommyistalkingmoney.blogspot.com Shareka Thomas

    This is a great article and I am glad it is featured in a business magazine. We often forget the emotional journey of business and entrepreneurship. I recently wrote a blog on letting baggage go that is weighing you down and ultimately your business as well, Kudos to the Ms. Holmes!

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Mableton-GA/Novac-Business-Solutions-LLC/134563326590807?v=app_4949752878&ref=ts Novac Business Soluions LLC

    My favorite is “Be willing to be uncomfortable.” We will be uncomfortable in life and in business, but as the author stated it is part of the journey. Love the journey and all it’s ups and downs. We all need a little shake up once in a while :-)

  • A.J. Jones

    This is an awesome article. Please people understand that everything starts with loving your
    internal environment, which is yourself then and only then you can begin to move forward with a sense of self worth.

    Aj
    Gaining
    Momentum

  • http://www.esteemableacts.com Francine Ward

    One of the greatest gifts I’ve ever given given myself is to be willing to be uncomfortable.  To be willing to get past life’s rough patches without giving up or giving in.  In life, we all face challenges, having the courage to address them is an Esteemable Act!

  • N. Ashe

    “Self Love” is such a vital factor in life for everyone. Whether you are looking for love, your career path or extending your family you MUST have self love before you can progress in life. Apart of helping others is knowing your self worth and self love in life.