Everyone finds him or herself in a slump sometimes; when they are not feeling the best about themselves. However, self-love can be cultivated by following these four tips.
1.Ā Ā Ā Know the world needs you. Someone at some point will rely on your distinct abilities and skills. āWhen people need you, you think, āWow, Iām worthwhile just as I am,āā says Pamela Everett Thompson, a psychologist and life coach based in Atlanta. Whether itās identifying new career options or volunteering, just knowing where and how you can positively impact others will jumpstart your feelings of self-worth.
2.Ā Ā Ā Acknowledge your shortcomings. While itās important to focus on your strengths and what you are grateful for, be real about the things that donāt make you happy. Itās okay to admit that thereās something you want to change. Pretending everything is great can do more harm than good, says Thompson. She adds, āYou use so much energy when you try to hide problems from yourself.ā
3.Ā Ā Ā Donāt get stuck in acceptance. Thereās a difference between accepting yourself despite your current situation and resigning yourself to the fact that things are destined to stay the way they are. āTell yourself to accept the situation just for today, but do something today to change your life at the same time,ā says Francine Ward, a California-based self-esteem coach and copyright trademark attorney.
4.Ā Ā Ā Be willing to be uncomfortable. No one will feel good all the time. Regardless of what your goal is, āyou donāt get from point A to point B overnight,ā reminds Ward. But when we believe we donāt deserve happiness until weāve achieved our goals, weāre practicing self-loathing. Self-love is about being okay with yourself before, during, and after you set out on your journey.