Tamar Braxton: On Living in Toni’s Shadow, Gold-Digger Accusations and Plastic Surgery

Little sister goes on record about critics of her marriage, sibling rivalries, and spending her money her way

YouAlreadyKnow.com that Tamar Braxton, the youngest of The Braxtons musical clan, speaks her mind unapologetically. Ever since Toni Braxton invited America to bear witness to her intimate family life with the hit WE tv show Braxton Family Values, Tamar—reality TV’s latest breakout drama queen—has become a guilty pleasure for avid viewers, and has endeared everyone with the witty delivery of her infamously hilarious dot-com catch phrases. From her candidness about plastic surgery to her annoyance with some of the actions of her sisters, Tamar holds back little.

 

Blackenterprise.com caught up with the feisty little sister who explained why her marriage is nothing but the real thing, why those who thinks she’s jealous of Toni have it all wrong, and her best advice on how to KeeptheIRSoffYourBack.com.

 

Starring on a reality show heightens anyone’s exposure. Are you ready to be in the music spotlight?
(Laughs) That’s not even the question… I am 100% ready! What the show has done, unfortunately, is made everyone believe that Tamar on TV is all that I am. They think there’s no difference and that there aren’t other sides to me.

 

So can we expect you to fly solo in the reality TV world?
I can’t predict the future, but right now I’m enjoying the time that me and my sisters are spending relearning each other as adults. I had to learn I can’t be popping off at no grown women (laughs). Although we grew up together, the reality is that each of us is into different things—some of us have families, careers—and we have to respect everyone’s decisions, even if you know it might not be the right move for them, you simply have to respect it.

 

You’ve been candid about feeling like you’re living in Toni ’s shadow and some perceive that as jealousy. What do you say to those critics?
This whole jealousy thing is ridiculous! Toni works really, really hard. I’m proud of her, not jealous of her. I don’t even want to be the same kind of artist. I care about my sisters and I’m so passionate about everything—especially them—so when people see me going off, it’s just my emotions. I want to see them win and be happy. Sometimes I feel like I want to learn from them rather than them learning things from me all the time. I know a lot of things I say are things my sisters don’t want to hear from their youngest sibling, but I say them.

 

What adversities have you faced in your own musical pursuits and how have you combated them?
My biggest challenge [in the music biz] has been that everybody expects me to sound like Toni Braxton. I’m like, “she’s not here, and if you want Toni, then you’ll have to call her.” [That expectation] was a lot to get over and I had to pound it into folks’ heads that that’s not who I am. I wasn’t changing [for anyone]. I don’t want to sing R&B. I love rap, house—music of today that’s really poppin’!

 

Tamar and husband, Vince (Image: Wilford Harewood/WE TV)

Public perception is that you are in a loveless marriage and that you are only with your producer husband, Vince, for personal gain. What do you say to those naysayers?
Absolutely ridiculous! I find it highly offensive because me and my husband dated each other for seven years, but we’ve only been married for [a little more than] two years. I mean, who’s gonna be with someone just ’cause they got some money and be miserable? I ain’t doing that! If I didn’t love my husband for who he is, then why do I want to work and have my own career? That doesn’t even make any sense. Me and Vince are regular. Some days we cool, some days we want to pull each other’s hair out, but that’s real life because [two people] are not going to agree on everything. It also depends on what your definition of love is, it’s different things for different people. Some people think hugging and kissing someone in public all the time is love, but when Vince told me [thatsthetruth.com], it was out of love because he didn’t want me looking crazy, throwing temper tantrums without understanding that there’s an order to things in this business.

 

Vince is a highly paid and sought after music producer and works with people megastars like Lady Gaga. What are some dos and don’ts of the music business that you’ve learned from him and from working with your sister Toni throughout the years?

 

The biggest lesson is to be your own business woman. Look over your own paperwork. Tell your lawyer, “I’m going to need to see those documents and need you to explain this to me line-by-line, paragraph-by-paragraph.” The other thing that I’ve learned from Lady Gaga is that just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean you have to sell yourself short. Don’t date people you work with [out of convenience]. I’ll admit I used to do that back in the day because I didn’t meet anyone [outside of the industry]. Now I met my husband while we were both in the industry, but I met him through my sister. It wasn’t like we were working together and started dating. As far as advice about working with family, the only dos are to take time apart and take time to separate things. What is for me is for me, what’s for Trina is for Trina and we each have to respect that.

 

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  • jazzie

    Braxton sisters, get in that studio and make a CD!! Yall’s voices are off the hook together, yeah Toni too. You ALL need to do that for real. When I heard that harmonizing on the BET awards, I was blown away.

    • Twi

      Agreed, teriangne. It is totally a downer knowing Rafa is not at 100%. Let’s just hope he won’t do it further injury by playing, or he’ll stop if it looks like playing would further affect his knee.

  • shelly

    I love the Braxton Family Values they are a true down to earth family, My favorite is Trina. I really think that Tamar really loves Vince she seems to me to be the kind of person that is not going to stay with someone because of what they have now she is spolied I will say that and opinionated but I think Vince is what she needs he holds his own with her but you can tell he loves her. I can’t wait for Season 2

    • cehennem

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    • Chiara

      I coduln’t find a live telecast of Rafa’s match with Tipsarevic (sp) but it sounds like his knee was much better today than in his match against Alun Jones. Let’s hope he will continue to mend.BTW, I love your blog.

  • Sunshine

    I really like the show. But Tamar is very arrogant and looks down on her sisters, especially Tracy. She is too high on her horse and needs to tone it down a bit. As far as she and Vince is concerned, they do not make a good couple…anyone can see that who is not blind. It’s all about her holding on to him for what he’s got and that’s “money and an entertainment status” that she craves and longs for, obviously. She wants so badly to be in the music industry and becoming another Beyonce which she will never become. Beyonce has a raw talent that she was born with. Tamar does not. But maybe if she humbles herself, in due time maybe she will be exalted for the world to see. She wants Vince to snap his finger at her every wish to become an overnight rock star. And he has told her it doesn’t work that way. She doesn’t listen, that’s for sure.

    • Patricia

      You have to admit, Tamar makes the show. I think she is so serious – you cant take her serious.

  • Patricia

    I can’t get over what a great bunch of ladies the Braxton’s Sister are. Trina has to be my favorite of all. I hope Tracy gets what she wants – and Toni’s career continue to soar. Tamar, Tamar, girl you are off the hook.com! Can’t wait for the next season. Oh yeah, Moms aint no slouch either. Love these ladies and wish all of them much love and happiness!

    Feel Better Toni!

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    • Hina

      yeah of course she is but thats not my point it strtaed out as a family thing, so it’s clearly not just a toni braxton thing. I agreed with toni needing her space, but to totally say it’s her business when she has her sisters assisting her in singing back up which one of them does for free, and another one is her personal assistant so in my eye’s although she needs space it is a family thing. plus who just wants to watch toni the show is a hit because ppl like to see them all

  • LyricsRme1

    Love this show – Tamar might have dated Vince for 7 years and been married for two, but I still say if he was a bag boy at the Shop ‘N Save, she wouldn’t have given him the time of day.

  • Yvonne Baker

    For season two I would like to see Tamar a lot less hyper. Just because she’s the baby in the family doesen’t mean she have to act like one. You don’t have to be loud to be heard. She claims she tells it like it is, honesty. When here sister made a statement that her marriage could be just as bad as someone else (can’t remember which sister) she was very offended. So consider others with what you say, even family. Less talking with the hands too. My opinion is “You’re not all that Tamar.com”

  • rhonda

    I think that Tamar is alittle over the top at times:))

  • Sonja

    Tamar would do better to exercise more emotional intelligence and sensor here proclivity to behave with belligerence and narcissism. I don’t’ enjoy watching the constant conflict and over acting. It is too bad that the women don’t focus on being kind and considerate to one another.

  • Yo Gotti

    How does a fat slob get a girl like that????

  • Rochelle

    Tamar I beleive she married for money.com.As much as she talk you have never seen a scene where she show real love.Tamar look down on Tracey and the orther sister cause she can shop and by things when she want.She spending Vince money like it hers and she have the nervous thinking there jealous of her.She think she all that when she really not how can you say to your own sister I hope you don’t think I’m going to give you money to help with her opening her shop.What is that to say to your sister,if she don’t be careful somebody going to put something on Vincent that he going to forget Ms Tamar.com.You really not good looking at all!!!!!!!

  • DARLENEFLOYD

    VINCE AND TAMAR I LOVE YOU BOTH ,I THINK VINCE IS SOOOOO CUTE HE COULD GET ANY WOMAN HE WANTS WITH THAT SWEET SMILE AND GENTLE WAY,THEY ARE OPPOSITES AND THAT MAKES IT A GREAT MATCH,HE LOVES HER SHE LOVES HIM,I JUST ENJOY WATCHING THEM, HE PUTS HER STRAIGHT,AND SHE NEEDS THAT, SHE MAKES HIM LAUGH AND GETS TO HIM AND HE LOVES IT,VINCE IS A TEDDYBEAR AND ALL WOMEN LOVE A TEDDYBEAR.

  • Lanier

    Please Please Please chk your grammar if your going to be an editor or commentator and if you don’t know the English Language and the usage then Hirer someone who can read over what you wish to print

    Kenya N Byrd:
    What’s some of the best money advice you’ve ever received and does you apply it to your everyday life?// Please you had to know that this sentence is not grammatically correct????????? Black Enterprise SHAME ON YOU!