Green-Eyed Diva: 5 Steps to Conquer the Hater in You

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It happens to the best of us. That nagging green monster that creeps up over our shoulder when a peer has a high point in their careers or personal lives.

—Your best friend gets married before you do.

—A close college classmate gets a big promotion.

—A former coworker gets his first book published.

—A sistergirl in your circle closes on a home or starts a lucrative business.

Leaders and successful people usually surround themselves with… well … other leaders and successful people, so obviously there will be many high points to share in celebrating throughout one’s life. Also, most leaders are competitive and constantly challenge themselves, especially when they see others doing well.

That said, it can be easy for jealousy to creep in every now and then. I’ve even been guilty. Though I’m always one to be happy for anybody pursuing their passion and purpose and finding success in any arena, there are things I aspire to acquire or achieve that haven’t manifested themselves yet but has happened for peers or others I interact with or admire.

The difference is, a hater will let the thoughts fester and morphe into insecurity, negativity and conflict. A confident boss who is secure in their abilities and purpose will acknowledge the thoughts, nip them in the bud and keep it moving on their path to success.

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