Everyone talks about being hated on, but what if you’re the hater? In today’s fast-paced and highly competitive business environment, it can become easy to harbor feelings of insecurity, inadequacy and jealousy. We’re all human.
But, these feelings can hinder professional growth and success. How do you nip them in the bud to protect your sanity—and your job?
Dr. Judith Orloff, author of a new book, The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life knows a thing or two about emotional intelligence and how to deal with toxic feelings that can shortchange advancement. She writes for Brazen Careerist:
Our relationship to power and success can often color both our self-image and how we view others. Someone who’s experiencing self-doubt and questioning her own success does the obvious thing: She compares herself to others who seem more at ease, more knowledgeable and more dominant and confident.
To be successful in your career, it’s essential to let go of comparing yourself to others. Without comparisons, jealousy and envy can’t exist. Not only are behaviors associated with jealous
She suggests the following steps toward managing jealous feelings and nipping them in the bud:
Give others what you most desire.
Learn from a rival’s positive points.
Wish a rival well.