Coworker Beef: How to Manage Office Drama Without Losing Your Job
Black Enterprise Magazine July/August 2018 Issue

Everyone talks about being hated on, but what if you’re the hater? In today’s fast-paced and highly competitive business environment, it can become easy to harbor feelings of insecurity, inadequacy and jealousy. We’re all human.

But, these feelings can hinder professional growth and success. How do you nip them in the bud to protect your sanity—and your job?

Dr. Judith Orloff, author of a new book, The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life knows a thing or two about emotional intelligence and how to deal with toxic feelings that can shortchange advancement. She writes for Brazen Careerist:

Our relationship to power and success can often color both our self-image and how we view others. Someone who’s experiencing self-doubt and questioning her own success does the obvious thing: She compares herself to others who seem more at ease, more knowledgeable and more dominant and confident.

To be successful in your career, it’s essential to let go of comparing yourself to others. Without comparisons, jealousy and envy can’t exist. Not only are behaviors associated with jealous

She suggests the following steps toward managing jealous feelings and nipping them in the bud:

Turn your attitude around.

Give others what you most desire.

Learn from a rival’s positive points.

Wish a rival well.


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Janell Hazelwood

Janell Hazelwood is associate managing editor at Black Enterprise, managing content across core areas of Money, Career, Small Business and Technology. She is also a featured blogger with My Two Cents, providing insights on branding, millennial career development, employment trends and leadership. She was previously a content producer and copy editor for Black Enterprise magazine, working across several editorial sections. The Hampton University graduate got her start in the newspaper industry, having worked for companies including The New York Times and Scripps Howard News Service. Her works and insights have appeared on The Huffington Post, MadameNoire, E!Online, Brazen Careerist, CBS News, and Arise TV.