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Why You Mad?: We Gave Gwyneth Paltrow Permission to Use the N-Word

Pop culture's --- and our--- loose use of the word diminishes its negative impact

Gwyneth Paltrow, seen with Beyonce and Jay-Z, is at the center of an N-word Twitter controversy. (Photo: File)

So, the N-word strikes again.

I’m usually not one to publicly comment on racial issues. I find many discussions to be quite frustrating and perplexing when the core of an argument has a racial focus.

But this time, after enough passionate office chatter about it, I had no choice.

Gwyneth Paltrow is at the center of controversy for a Twitpic, which captures Jay-Z and Kanye West during a performance, captioned “Ni**as in paris for real @mrteriusnash (the dream) tyty, beehigh.”

Paltrow, known for her roles in blockbusters including The Avengers, and Se7en, often rubs elbows with Beyonce, Kanye West, Jay-Z, and other African-American notables in the music industry. So, I wasn’t surprised by her casual use of the word, nor was I surprised at her response to the raised eyebrows. (“Hold up. It’s the title of the song!“)

It’s undeniable that the song in which she references was and still is a commercial hit, peaking at No. 5 on the Billiboard Hot 100, selling more than 2 million copies in the United States, peaking at No. 10 in the UK, and spending multiple weeks in the Top 40.

What does this mean? Paltrow’s caption or use of the word is not the major issue. It’s the fact that major figures— and the people who support and drive their success, ie. US — have made it OK for people to use the word— whether the connotation or reference has harmful intent or not.

Some of us are mad at Paltrow, but the person to blame is right in the mirror. The culprit behind the bru-ha-ha is our constant affirmation of the N-word’s use in our everyday lives, our daily habits and our consumption of popular media that uses the word as casually as a “Hi” or “Bye.”

I’ve been guilty. I would be lying if I said that I, my family, and some friends have not used the word in the past or present. Many of us grew up with it being part of casual conversation, and not just by some ignorant racist or a misguided classmate or coworker, but by those in our inner circles.

Many of my favorite hip-hop and R&B hits include multiple use of the word (as well as the B-word). In supporting these things, which have international reach, we let the world know that it’s okay for them to embrace the use of the N-word— no matter what their race or ethnicity is.

If it’s all good when Paltrow’s buddies Jay-Z and Kanye West to use it, make a hit out of it and have millions of people around the world embracing it (many who have no sense of its history or regard for that history), then it must be OK for her to do it, too.

Thanks, Mrs. Paltrow for reminding me. The rest of us need to get the memo.

There is no double standard. Until we all stop accepting the use of the N-word in any manner, these occurrences will remain a common thread of pop culture and everyday society.

I’m not calling for a boycott. I’m just saying.

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  • Sunf1ower_Jones

    People. let’s stop with this b.s.. Now black people are being blame for others using the N word? We didn’t create the d*mn word. That’s like blaming women for people calling us “bitches” and “ho’s,” which many women refer to themselves in such terms. Do we ban those words as well?

    Whether blacks or women stopped using n*gger, bitches or ho’s, those words will not all of a sudden be eradicated from people’s vocabulary. I don’t use the words, but I’m NOT GOING TO STOP OTHERS FROM USING IT. I’m not to blame that the “N” word was acribed to me and my people. Let’s deal with the source that would allow others to use the word to historically demean and dehumanize us. No one wants to touch that, but instead make it a black person’s issue.

    WAKE UP! WHITES AND OTHERS STILL CALL US N*GGERS WHETHER WE SAY IT OR NOT OR WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT. Are you stupid enough to think they’ve stopped?

    This whole argument is a bunch of b.s.

    • http://functionalculture.blogspot.com Constructive_Feedback

      Sunflower – your entire argument is irrational despite the fact that you had 3 people “like it”.

      The issue is that there is a word KNOWN TO BE OFFENSIVE TO BLACK PEOPLE.
      There are several “You Offended Us Black Folks And We Are Going To Make You Pay” hitman groups (“The Color Of Change”, “NAACP”, “National Action Network”).

      You ask White people to stop using this word OR ELSE – yet here is the truth:  There is no mechanism to get BLACK PEOPLE TO STOP USING THE WORD.

      Think about it.  While protests and petitions and boycotts are used to get the classical conservative, racist adversary of the Black Progressive-Fundamentalists to “cease and desist” – when it comes to a Black person who is otherwise in good standing, making use of this ignorant word in COMMERCIAL SPEECH – the fraud and hypocrisy that has been entertained within our community comes to light.

      There are more Black people PROUD of the fact that:* Jay-Z is worth $400M and has access to the White House
      * That Kanye is a wealthy star with influence
      * That “Baby” has $5M invested in his 2 cars – and that Atlanta’s V-103 can use this news to attract a large crowd of Black people to its “V-103 Car And Bike Show” to see the cars

      THAN there is consensus to GO AFTER THEM for violating the INTEGRITY and HONOR of our community by using this ignorant word for commercial speech.

      How can you ask WHITE PEOPLE to treat you equally when there is a weak INTERNAL SET OF INSTITUTIONS to promote the high regard for fellow Black people?

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tommy-Bottoms/1655397187 Tommy Bottoms

         Standing Ovation!

  • http://www.facebook.com/onewordlisten Kevin Mason

    This argument that because the word is used by one it is then made acceptable by all is nonsense.  My dad called me monkey affectionately as a little kid, the neighbor up the street did not.  Your significant other might call you ‘boo’, I would not take that liberty.   The choice to be angry or not is individual.  Why do you have the right to paint with the ‘US’ brush and stop other people from being annoyed.

    • Sunf1ower_Jones

      Kevin, God bless you, brother! Someone finally gets it.

    • TheKMan58

      Being she is closing to the people in the pic than you are… Could her reference not be as affectionate as your fathers?

      • http://www.facebook.com/onewordlisten Kevin Mason

        Could be. I never analyzed her intent in my post.

  • Sunf1ower_Jones

    So, according ot you, because many of US say the word, we’ve made it okay for people to use it against us? So when the police entered into that 68 year old black Veteran’s house, shot and killed him, called him a n*gger, his family blamed the black community for it? Are you nuts? When white racists come out and call our people that name, we should sit there and cosign because SOME blacks use the word? NOT ALL BLACKS DO NOT USE THE WORD, so how can all blacks make the word acceptable because some of us use it. This mentality here is what’s wrong with many of us. We take the blame for everything. We are brain f*cked.

    It’s bad enough blacks get blamed by others for all the social ills of society, but it’s darn right amazing that many blacks believe the lies and do the same thing to one another. The use of the N word is the least of our problems. Getting out of mental slavery should be first and farmost on the list. Black people can’t even come together and do that.

    Also, to shoot down this nonsense, just because others use the word DOESN’T MEAN YOU OR ANYONE ELSE HAS TO.

    The author started off by saying she hides from discussing racial issues, so she was so inclined to come out the racial closet for this nonsense? Girl, bye!

    So now, we have the word police going around trying to tell people what words they can’t and can’t use? If whites want to use the word (WHICH THEY DO), they have every right to do so, but they need to keep in mind that their might be severe consequences to doing so.

  • Hazelwoodj

    Def. respect all of your opinions, however you missed the point.

    Until we stop embracing it ourselves, how do we expect others to not use
    it? How to we expect to make a change if we’re using it casually and
    promoting it to international audiences. We still listen to the music,
    still use in the casual conversations and still think we can use it
    among ourselves, but others can’t use it.

    I’m not saying it’s right for a bigot or racist to use the word. I’m
    saying the uproar over Gwyneth Paltrow for using a word in reference to a
    hit song should be refocused to our own use of the word and why she and
    others think its okay to casually use it.

    • Sunf1ower_Jones

      Our embracing it or not is NOT GOING TO STOP OTHERS FROM USING IT. You say, “We.” All of us don’t embrace it, so who is “WE?”

      Other’s embraced the word long before we got here. They know they aren’t supposed to sue the word. Just because someone uses a word, doesn’t mean I have to use it.

      • Hazelwoodj

        Many of us do embrace it. Let’s just stop it with the defense mode and think about the real issue here. If Jay Z makes a song using the word and it sells MILLIONS, isn’t that embracing it? You may not embrace it (I commend you) but obviously MILLIONS of consumers do (based on the sales and popularity of the song, of which Paltrow referenced and of which started the whole reason for o this CURRENT debate/discussion in the first place). We can’t keep pushing our role in this under the rug and keep blaming bigots and racists as the sole problem here. It’s not a one-dimensional issue. We have an active hand in the word’s popularity and usage TODAY. Point. blank. period. It does not help the plight of getting rid of bigotry and racism by continuing to ignore the role of minorities in using a word amongst ourselves or accepting it in pop culture— a word that was initially used by oppressors, slave masters, racists and bigots to diminish minorities’ self esteem, self-worth and self-respect. Enough with not being accountable as intelligent people who have billion-dollar buying power and influence. Enough. We CONTRIBUTE to an already existing problem by using the word ourselves and buying into and supporting popular leaders who use it as well, yet get upset when it’s used by others who consume and support the same pop culture many of us do. That was the point of this blog :)

        • Jacqueline

          With all due respect, I think you need to do the research on who a good portion of Jay Z’s fans are.  Many are white and that is the problem.  The person to blame for this nonsense are the fools who continue to put it in their music for everyone to consume.  Gwyneth Paltrow is to be held accountable because she should be smart enough to know it would not go over well with most people.  We (black people) do not answer to jay-z and Beyonce who clearly will sell their culture and by extension their people to the highest bidder to line their pockets.

          • Hazelwoodj

            Saying that the artists should not use the word is a valid point. However, we cannot ignore our use of the word and that factor being a contribute to why others don’t respect the the word should not be used. Point. Blank. Period. And I’m very aware that the majority of hiphop consumers are not black. Which makes it even a greater argument. A black icon is using the word FREELY to entice a population of people who are not black. Are you getting the logic here. I really need you to look at the bigger picture. We are NOT excluded from culpability. We need to stop always taking the defense or victim role in things we have an active hand to perpetuating. PERIOD. Just stop it, please. We will not advance if we don’t look at our own roles in the things that continue to happen that are negative in our communities.

          • Hotroad03

            Who is “our”? You keep using “we” and “our”, with no real idea of how many Black ppl use it, publicly or privately. And since the majority of hiphop consumers are not black, does that stat within itself suggest black comdenation (to an extent by not buying the music) against the word! However, as whites are the majority buyers of hiphop music, black protests won’t amount to much as they don’t hit the rappers bottomline.  So by suggesting just b/c these ppl are successful, somehow the majority of blacks support their continued use of the word is misleading

          • Hotroad03

            Thank you!

        • Sunf1ower_Jones

          So what if many of us embrace it. You are assuming, like Jacqueline
          said, that Jay-Z’s fans are black. Most of his fan base is not black.

          We have no role. Bigots and racists are the ones that have used this
          word  (and still do) against our people since before we were saying it. Just because someone says a word, doesn’t mean people have
          to repeat it. When blacks stop
          blaming other blacks for what is clearly is not our fault, we might
          elevate. The chains of self-loathing might fall off. Instead, we like our enemy, point the finger at blacks and say,
          “You see! YOU are the problem, not me.”

          As far as this Paltrow controversy, I have YET to see where people have
          complained. I even visited her Twitter page and saw nothing to indicate blacks had an issue with her comment. If you have a link, please provide it. I believe the media made this up to put black people on
          blast (like it always does) for a word WE DID NOT CREATE, yet would never hold racist white
          hands to the fire to extinguish their use of the word. Where is that
          article? Also, not every black person uses the word, so the argument is null and void.

          As I’ve stated before, if we all of a sudden stopped using the word, THE
          WORD WOULD STILL BE USED BY THOSE WHO HATE US. What part of that is not
          clear to you?

          • Hazelwoodj

             We’ll agree to disagree :) And thanks for your insights and reading :)

          • Sunf1ower_Jones

            Sounds like a plan.

      • http://functionalculture.blogspot.com Constructive_Feedback

        You have little clue about the distinction between “PERSONAL SPEECH” and “COMMERCIAL SPEECH”.

        In addition when PERSONAL SPEECH is heard on the subway, allowing the rest of the world to see the IGNORANCE that has spilled out of certain communities – we then see that even with PERSONAL SPEECH there is a need to TEACH the people to observe the circumstances where they reside and TURN OFF the projection of their IGNORANCE.

        The task of having them show RESPECT in their own communities among their own selves because everyone is WORTHY OF SUCH RESPECT is the final task.

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  • Mdukest

    Black people need to release themselves from the “N” word. because if someone can control
    your thoughts, emotions and actions by mouthing a specific word they’s have control over
    you. Sop its time to stop being offended by that word. Many non-blacks who  use it and then
    apologize are not truly sorry they said it, but they succeed, if only for a moment, in controlling
    those who are offended. That is so powerful – to control someone with a word. Let it go and
    do claimed ownership of the “N” by letting someone control your anger over a word.

    • Heinermarian

       Whether blacks or women stopped using n*gger, bitches or ho’s, those
      words will not all of a sudden be eradicated from people’s vocabulary. I
      don’t use the words, but I’m NOT GOING TO STOP OTHERS FROM USING IT.
      I’m not to blame that the “N” word was acribed to me and my people.
      Let’s deal with the source that would allow others to use the word to
      historically demean and dehumanize us. No one wants to touch that, but
      instead make it a black person’s issue.   parchet

      • Sunf1ower_Jones

        AGREED!!!!

  • Mdukest

    Black people need to release themselves from the “N” word, because if someone can controlyour thoughts, emotions and actions by mouthing a specific word they have control overyou.

    its time to stop being offended by that word. Many non-blacks who use it and thenapologize are not truly sorry they said it, but they succeed, if only for a moment, in controllingthose who are offended. That is so powerful – to control someone with a word. Let it go anddo claimed ownership of the “N” word by letting someone control your anger over a word.

  • Mdukest

    ExpandBlack people need to release themselves from the “N” word, because if someone can control your thoughts, emotions and actions by mouthing a specific word they have control over you. Its time to stop being offended by that word. Many non-blacks who use it and thenapologize are not truly sorry they said it, but they succeed, if only for a moment, in controlling those who are offended. That is so powerful – to control someone with a word. Let it go and do claimed ownership of the “N” word by letting someone control your anger over a word.

  • http://twitter.com/almostfamouscom almostfamous.com

    “Many of us grew up with it being part of casual conversation, and not just by some ignorant racist or a misguided classmate or coworker, but by those in our inner circles.” This is a pivotal statement almost everyone has a inner circle where is “OK” for the opposite race or anyone regardless of race to use that / those words (N- B- or any other). The question now because, who’s the person using the word (in public)? and what’s their social standing? at the end of the day, we like/ need to point the finger..blame someone. The reality is we probably hear someone out of our inner circle use words like that everyday but we don’t stop & say: “hold the fuck up, what did you just say..?” That’s the core of the issue and as a society we’re past that.. and need to understand that in the more “social world” w/ technology we are going to be more aware of what people are doing and saying. 

    Side note: I can’t imagine here even uttering those words.. if I see here I’m gonna say “what up hoe.. let’s vibe” :)

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/CQ5NZLL7WDLM53ZWTUXJRGFM4Y Tim Kasmircezk

    So, Kevin Mason your saying its alright for a white person to refer to you or any other black person as “ni**er”?

  • http://twitter.com/teddbernard Tedd Bernard

    “Many of us grew up with it being part of casual conversation, and not just by some ignorant racist or a misguided classmate or coworker, but by those in our inner circles.” This is a pivotal statement almost everyone has a inner circle where is “OK” for the opposite race or anyone regardless of race to use that / those words (N- B- or any other). The question now because, who’s the person using the word (in public)? and what’s their social standing? at the end of the day, we like/ need to point the finger..blame someone. The reality is we probably hear someone out of our inner circle use words like that everyday but we don’t stop & say: “hold the fuck up, what did you just say..?” That’s the core of the issue and as a society we’re past that.. and need to understand that in the more “social world” w/ technology we are going to be more aware of what people are doing and saying. 

    Side note: I can’t imagine here even uttering those words.. if I see here I’m gonna say “what up hoe.. let’s vibe” :)  

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/CQ5NZLL7WDLM53ZWTUXJRGFM4Y Tim Kasmircezk

    I don’t care if she hangs with B or J. I don’t care if she considers herself a celebrity. She attempts to say that around the wrong people she gets cracked. She does not get a pass just because she knows some black people. White people of all social levels or status are the same when they decide to use the “N” word.

  • Jacke_boy

    The person who made the song is a provocateur. He deliberately titled his song and tour this way to elicit these response so he can line his money for the mentally challenged youth.

  • Bkabbagej

    I beg your pardon, “there is no double standards”, regarding what? Double standards is what America is built on! Oh, you mean with us using the N-word and becoming offended when white people use the word and feeling as though they should never be able to use that word, EVER, oh that double standard.  Well, I’m no fan of using that word under any circumstance and I am guilty of using the word in my private conversations (getting better evryday with removing it from my vocabulary), but I am very cautious in whose company I’m in and never in public. Because I wouldn’t want anyone to think it’s ok to use that word. And I agree that as long as we use that word not only in conversations in public but also to make millions and make people of other races feel it’s a cool word now because we changed the spelling and “everyone is saying it, it’s the name of the song”,or it doesn’t have the same insulting, degrading connotaions as when they were calling our ancestor that disgusting name instead of given name or human one. We are resposible for the purchasing of that garbage and going along to get along.  I going to end here because I hope I’ve written enoug to make some one think.

  • Kashiwa

    If it were up to me, folks would be prohibited from uttering n****r, mother*******, ho,  etc.  However, freedom of speech is alive and well in the US and I respect that.  I also realize that, if such words were forbidden, some folks would have a very hard time carrying on the simplest  conversation.

  • http://twitter.com/visionquest2012 vision

    my mom and dad my family their friends never used the n word i only heard it growing up from blacks calling other blacks the n word . blacks not only call each other the n word they write songs about we all have to hear the n word day n day out from blacks. i find it interesting that blacks would dare act offended by a white saying the n word when whites learn the n word from blacks…where is the outrage from blacks for the day n day out use of the n word ? there is no outrage that being said and untill blacks do show outrage day n day out about blacks use of the n word day n day out, there is nothing what so ever wrong with what that young fresh beautiful innocent woman said to her friends…nothing…blacks dont like the n word ? stop spewing it day n day out untill then grow up buck up toughen up and stop crying for a people not to use the n word when the n word is a standard day to day used word amonts blacks

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/ACMK3RX2VNIWZZKDNXBJGREGFE Rocky

       STFU

      • Anon

         Troll

      • Larry

        Another example of pure idiocy right here… Whites are supposedly the racists. Take a long hard (intellectual) look at yourselves and your peers, then see the true color of racism.

    • OldRedned

      Well said. It’s a pleasure to find an intelligent and rational response in what is sadly a sea of ignorance. An offensive word is just that - offensive.

      So why do so many Blacks wish to reserve the word for their exclusive and righteous use? Is it because they have nothing else to offer, that their only intellectual assets are weapons of mass ignorance and it’s a useful tool for the perpetual victim. 

  • Nicole Wright

    If I were a white person, knowing the history of this word and that my ancestor’s created it to mentally enslave an entire race of people, I wouldn’t want to use it. Especially if I wanted to distance myself from any racist labels.  And if I had black friends who used the word, I might reconsider my friendships. No matter how many times my black friends told me it was okay or I heard them using it to address each other…I would not use the word.  Period.  I’m sorry but I don’t buy this argument that because black people use the word we can’t get mad at whites for using it.  That’s bs!  The word is off-limits to them and they should know better.  I don’t care if your mega-famous black BFFs are co-signing you.

    And for the argument that if we stop using it then so will others…what about when they were using the word and we weren’t.  Racists whites created the word and used it for years before we “adopted” it as our own. Blacks not using it never stopped the racists.  

    Do we need to stop using the word? ABSOLUTELY!!! But whether we do or don’t…the word is off limits to whites.  It’s not up for discussion as far as I’m concerned. We need to learn how to make decisions about what’s best for our community without always having to be motivated by what does or does not make white people uncomfortable.  Is this 2012 or 1955?  

    • OldRedned


      Do we need to stop using the word? ABSOLUTELY!!! But whether we do or don’t…the word is off limits to whites.” No Nicole, the word is offensive – by all its users. There are no ‘special pleadings’ or claims for limited and exclusive use. What next – Blacks want to lay claim to the disgusting word as part of their ‘culture’ or ‘heritage’?

  • Cle B

    Gwyneth should know better and it annoys the heck out of me when people use it, regardless of race. However, in cases like this, the word has been used without thinking and without malice. I think it’s about time we black people take it with a pinch of salt. Is it really that important? 

    This is a great business magazine lets not get wrapped up in the trivial nonsense of one stupid little girl.

  • Chase

    The word used to have one completely negative, racist and demeaning definition. In recent years, it’s been co-opted and changed in meaning to refer to each other as friend, comrade or brother. As cultured continually integrate, this new meaning is becoming more and more acceptable for anyone to say.

    Paltrow used it in the modern sense of the word. But clearly racists still use the word in the old context.  While it may be difficult for a white person with black friends who constantly use the word to not feel, at some point, familiar enough with their friends and the culture, to use it themselves.  I think the new meaning is here to say so why not just differentiate the context and let everyone use the modern term and forget all of this race baiting bs? 

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/ACMK3RX2VNIWZZKDNXBJGREGFE Rocky

       Nope, not buying your argument.

  • Jj

    And black people will still by rap that degrades their own race, so whats the big deal, it will NEVER change, cause black people support the very artist who degrage their own race.  so this is not new worthy,

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/ACMK3RX2VNIWZZKDNXBJGREGFE Rocky

       It is newsworthy.  STop using the word.

  • LAFF27

    Don’t hate on Gwyneth. We can not blame others for what we continue to perpetuate. It’s just that simple.  As long as we keep using the word over and over and OVER again, we have no one to blame but ourselves…which seems pretty evident. 

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/ACMK3RX2VNIWZZKDNXBJGREGFE Rocky

      Blame yourself. I’m not in this with you.

    • Sunf1ower_Jones

      Do you think blacks are monolithic? We are not, so quite using “we” or ‘us.” We don’t all say N, so quit giving whites a pass for saying it. It’s so typical of so many blacks that want to blame themselves for everything other’s do.

      If I say N, doesn’t mean anyone else should. Remember when a kid would go to their parent and say, “So and so is doing this, can I.” They might say, “No.” If so and so jumped off a bridge, would you? That’s the same premise. If every black person on the planet said N, it doesn’t give others cart blanche excuse to say. it

      It’s so hard for many blacks to get this concept. We’re victims of brainwashing!

  • LeeroyJenkins

    This whole issue makes me LOL.  You really expect any non-black person to show sympathy for the use of the N word when a major black icon writes songs entitled Niggas in Paris with lyrics such as this:

    So I ball so hard motha# !s wanna fine me, first niggas gotta find me.
    What’s 50 grand to a motha…. like me, can you please remind me

    [...]

    Bitch, behave, just might let you meet ‘Ye

    Seriously?  No, Seriously?

    • Hazelwoodj

       Exactly. SOMEBODY finally gets the point. The fact that a majority of the fans of hiphop are not black  is not the point. (Also, might I point out that the majority of the WORLD is not black. But I won’t get into how stats and sample pool numbers are proportionate to how numbers are reporting when it comes to stating “majority” numbers.)

      He and Mr. West are major black influencers — nationally and internationally– who use the word and have made it a hit song. That hit song is sung and supported by millions. THATS the point. Popular black influencers of African descent continue to use the word and make it okay. Bigots used it before us and now we use it casually and expect others to respect us and NOT use the term? Where’s the logic in that?

      • Hotroad03

        Just because they (Jay Z, Kanye, and others) use the word does not make it “okay”! Following the multitude and/or the “mighty” to do wickedly much?
        Further, as a poster mentioned earlier, not all Black people use the word. What about the Blacks who lived prior to and through the civil rights movement who know what that word truly means, regardless of the pathetic attempt to rebrand him, and retain traumatic memories of it? Many of them are still alive today! Should they give Paltrow a pass just b/c a few rappers use it?  Pls!

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  • dogteam18

    Who cares anymore? I know I don’t.  We give the word way too much power over us! It doesn’t define me and doesn’t define me when Paltrow or anybody else uses it. If it’s not who you are then why does it bother you so much?

  • Brandimoore50@gmail.com

    Ppl it’s 2012 u knw an racist when u see one. It’s the fact of white ppl using it its the type of white person using it. Example if Donald trump says it we all no he’s an closet racist, if say george clooney use it it’s not an racist bone in his body. At the end of the day were all blck jus some went to the mountains an there skin got lighter we spread all over. So ppl get ova it an no your history face the facts WE ARE ALL BLACK… An besides I didn’t knw we dealt with her like that anyway…

  • Lavada

    I’ll accept the notion that there should be no double standards when black people don’t have to accept double standards. African Americans are racially profiled, now our “suspicious” looking kids are being gunned down. . . This type of things don’t happen in the white communities. . . Our lives are the constantly represent the double standards this country has forced upon us. . . But we have to be sensitive to them and if you’re saying if we use the N word they should too????? How about if your chkldren can walk down the street and not get harrassed by police officers mine should too!!! That’s the racisl issue this author should have abandoned his, “I never talk about race” policy to talk about. . . . . And fyi, I don’t use the N word but whether I do or not I’m not bowing down white
    America until there are truly no double standards.

  • Angie

    I don’t see how this argument is even relevant to life. I hear white boys call each other “my nigga” in the steet. Almost every damn rap song is nigga nigga nigga. And there is surprise? People bitch about white people using the word even when it’s positive aka used in the way rappers use it or whatever. People complain about everyone using the word but oh blacks should be able to use it and a slew of whining ensues.

    And what is this we and us stuff? No you may use it and have it control your lives but it’s a word of pop cutlure and you know what, either eliminate the word or get used to it. I’m over this. This isn’t that serious. I don’t use the word so it’s even less of an issue of every day life.

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