Originally Published Jan. 5, 2017
The biggest challenge to getting what you deserve can be your mindset. We often don’t realize our excuses prevent us from achieving great success. Excuses come in all forms, shapes, and sizes and rob us of productivity. In business, we seem to be taught to settle for less than we deserve. But it doesn’t start there: we often believe we’re capable of much less than we actually are. The sources of these misconceptions vary, making it even more difficult to solve inaccurate mindsets and go out and get what we reserve.
Hard Work Can Pay Off
If you grew up in an environment where you were told you wouldn’t amount to anything, you are not alone. Economic pressure can deeply affect parents, too, and whether intentional or not, self-inflicted limitations tend to be a result. If your whole early skill set is based on making ends meet, you might be less likely to dream big for yourself and your business.
Industries can also be unkind. The perils of unemployment and “dead-end jobs’ may keep us operating within the status quo. After all, it’s better to have your bases covered than to risk doing something that might not be more rewarding, right?
I was fortunate to grow up in a family that believes hard work and the right mindset will take you most of the way. But when I tried out for the local Boys & Girls Club basketball team when I was nine, I was cut. I was crushed. I thought for sure I would make it.
But my dad told me not to worry. This was a learning curve: I realized I needed to work harder and smarter and challenge myself. Fast-forward a few years, and I was recruited by the varsity high school coach when I was still in junior high. Some people would’ve been crushed and given up after that initial rejection, but I took it for what it was.
I have seen great success — in my own life and at work — when people inspect these learned mindsets and consciously decide to try something outside those limitations. Didn’t go to college? That might not matter. If you were told you could never do something, try it anyway. Start small and build on your successes.
Take Control Over Outcomes
The “self-employment” trap can also negatively influence your mindset. What stands between you seeing yourself as self-employed and a legitimate business owner, entrepreneur, and trailblazer is a handful of fairly straightforward paperwork. Can you open a bank account? Can you navigate your local Secretary of State’s website and fill out a couple of forms? That is essentially all that separates what is essentially a freelance position from a legitimate business.
This problem exists across industries: it’s about taking responsibility and control over outcomes. This may seem scary, but it’s a skill that can be learned. This is not about setting yourself up for obligations that feel burdensome; it’s about making things happen and discovering the freedom that evolves.
The biggest problem here is in one’s mindset. The distinction might appear subtle, but think about it: there is, perhaps, a stigma in these days of serial entrepreneurship and business startups making it big, seemingly at every turn. To consider yourself self-employed robs you of some of the rewards the immense effort you have applied entitles you to. You don’t have a boss. You are the boss.
The level of responsibility is up to you. If you work for someone else, they get to decide how responsible you are. For some, that’s truly more comfortable. But for some others, it just makes better sense to be the one making those decisions. You get to decide what risks you take and how you take them. You also get to choose how to own them when they succeed or if they fail.
Getting What You Deserve
Working for what you deserve depends on whether you have the drive to pursue every avenue and discover what’s possible. It depends on whether you have an itch that needs scratching that makes you want to show your high school graduating class, your cousins, and even complete strangers that your work is legitimate, valuable, and world-changing. And it sometimes depends on whether you have a real drive to reach the top.
Your potential is more than what you believe, even as you read this. Your capabilities are likely worth 90% more than you’re earning now. Make a game plan to get yourself there. Reflect on where you are right now. Consider what might happen if you believed you could achieve anything you can think of.
After you’ve done that, take a deep breath. You do deserve to achieve your dreams in business and life. By believing in this, you’ll discover you are absolutely worthy of success.
