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OpEd: Strong Black Woman Or Silently Suffering? The Cost Of Emotional Suppression

How do Black women begin to break free from the "Strong Black Woman" persona?


By Antania “Nia” Priester

The doctors told me my heart was broken.

Not metaphorically. Not emotionally. Physically.

I was lying in a hospital bed after experiencing severe chest pain when they explained I had developed Broken Heart Syndrome, Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, a condition triggered by intense emotional stress. In that moment, everything slowed down. I was grieving the loss of my brother, carrying layers of unprocessed pain from betrayal in my marriage, and sitting beside someone who had contributed to that emotional turmoil.

And yet, up until that moment, I had still been showing up. Still smiling. Still functioning.

Still being “strong.” That is the reality for so many Black women.

This experience is not just personal; it reflects a broader truth. Black women are conditioned by society and culture to endure pain in ways that are rarely acknowledged. Research continues to show disparities in how Black women’s pain is perceived and treated, particularly in healthcare settings. If our physical pain is often minimized, it raises a critical question: what happens to our emotional and mental health?

As cultural critic bell hooks writes in All About Love, “Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion.” Yet many Black women are expected to carry their pain quietly, without the support that healing requires.

From the outside, I appeared strong. I continued to show up for others, maintain responsibilities, and present a composed version of myself. But internally, I was struggling with what is often called functional depression, continuing to perform while silently unraveling. I experienced panic attacks, deep exhaustion, dread, forgetfulness, and loneliness. Even when I voiced that I wasn’t OK, my truth was often dismissed and replaced with reminders of my strength.

The “Strong Black Woman” identity, while celebrated, comes at a cost. It demands emotional suppression, self-sacrifice, and constant resilience. Over time, this leads to chronic stress, physical illness, and emotional burnout. Dr. Joy DeGruy’s work on Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome highlights how generational trauma has shaped coping mechanisms such as over-functioning and emotional suppression within the Black community. These patterns were rooted in survival, but survival is not the same as healing.

My turning point came when I realized that being functional did not mean I was healthy. I had to choose myself, not the version of me others relied on, but the version of me that needed care.

So how do Black women begin to break free?

It starts with naming the conditioning. Emotional suppression is not just an individual issue; it is cultural and generational. Recognizing this allows us to release self-blame and begin to understand our patterns.

It requires redefining strength. Strength is not silent suffering. True strength is setting boundaries, acknowledging when we are not OK, and choosing ourselves without guilt. It demands that we practice rest as resistance.

For Black women, rest is not indulgent; it is necessary. It disrupts cycles of overwork and survival mode that have been normalized for generations. It calls for rebuilding community. Healing requires safe spaces where vulnerability is honored, not dismissed. Community should be a place where we can be seen fully, not where we feel pressure to perform strength. And it involves stepping out of emotional prison intentionally. Healing is not about getting over what we have experienced. It is about moving forward without abandoning ourselves in the process.

This conversation cannot be limited to moments when public figures share their stories. Every day, Black women are navigating emotional burdens that often go unseen. This dialogue must be ongoing, in our homes, communities, and systems.

For generations, Black women have been praised for how much we can carry but rarely asked what it is costing us. I was praised for being strong while my body was shutting down. I had to decide whether to remain who I was conditioned to be or become who I needed to be to survive.

I chose myself.

And maybe it’s time more of us do the same.

Because strength should not feel like suffering.

And healing should not feel like isolation.

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Haitian Flag Day: 5 Haitian-Owned Brands And Organizations To Support

The Haitian flag is one of the most powerful symbols of freedom and independence in the Americas.


The Haitian flag is one of the most powerful symbols of freedom and independence in the Americas. Originally sewn on May 18, 1803, by Catherine Flon, with guidance from her godfather, Haitian revolutionary leader Jean-Jacques Dessalines, this flag was created during the fight against French colonial rule by removing the white stripe from the French tricolor and joining the blue and red sections together.
When Haiti became the first independent Black republic in 1804 after the Haitian Revolution, the flag came to represent resistance, pride, and self-determination. Today, it remains a deeply meaningful emblem of Haitian identity, resilience, and the enduring spirit of a people who fought successfully against slavery and colonialism.

As we celebrate Haitian Flag Day on May 18, 2026, BLACK ENTERPRISE has highlighted five Haitian-owned brands to support.

Kreyòl Essence

Offering products ranging from skincare to haircare sourced directly from Haiti, the website states: “Every purchase supports farmers, women, and communities that create Kreyòl Essence Products.”

Vinshēk

Creating clothing that tells stories, Vinshēk’s website states, “Each drop is rooted in a specific moment in history, exploring culture, resistance, identity, and evolution through design. Whether revisiting the revolutionary spirit of the 1960s, Haitian Revolution of 1804, or honoring the elegance of a forgotten era, our garments serve as living archives, made to be worn, remembered, and felt.”

KO Kitchen/ Haitian KO Kitchen

Knockout Kitchen is a Haitian culinary and cultural platform founded by Chef Kerline Ordeus. Rooted in heritage and shaped by community, its work centers food as memory, care, and connection while offering Haitian cooking experiences, spices, take-away meals & more.


CCCC Haiti/ Cazale Community and Cultural Center

The Cazale Community and Cultural Center is a nonprofit organization dedicated to transforming the lives of young people in Haiti, founded by Haitian businesswoman Soledad DesRuisseaux when she moved from Haiti to New York in 1981. From there, she decided to take a leap of faith and open an after-school center in Cazale, Haiti, with the hope of having a safe space with electricity where students in the town could come and do their homework, read, and play.

Nouka Jewelry

NOUKA jewelry was founded to connect through jewelry passed down through generations. Its website states, “NOUKA was born from a quiet realization that grew too loud to ignore. Across Haiti’s diaspora, there is a deep longing for connection. Many of us carry stories shaped by migration, separation, and becoming someone new in unfamiliar places. We aimed to change that.”

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Black Actors Needed For Upcoming TV And Film Roles In Los Angeles

Project Casting is inviting Black actors on the West Coast to apply for upcoming TV, film, and entertainment opportunities.


Originally published on BlackNews.com.

Jonathan Browne, the founder and CEO of Project Casting, has announced a massive casting search focused on helping Black actors in Los Angeles connect with more opportunities in television, film, and entertainment. The initiative is designed to make it easier for Black performers to get discovered, apply for roles, and take the next step in their acting careers through Project Casting’s entertainment jobs platform.

Black actors in the Los Angeles area can now create or log in to their Project Casting account to apply for upcoming casting calls, acting auditions, TV projects, film opportunities, and other entertainment roles seeking diverse and authentic talent.

“Project Casting was built to help people find opportunity,” said Browne. “As a Black founder in the entertainment industry, I understand how important representation is both on-screen and behind the scenes. We want to help Black actors in Los Angeles get discovered, get seen, and connect with real opportunities that can help move their careers forward.”

This casting search is part of Project Casting’s larger mission to make the entertainment industry more accessible, inclusive, and open to talented performers from all backgrounds.

Casting Opportunity Details

Who: Black/ African American actors
Location: Los Angeles, California
Project Type: TV, Film, and Entertainment
Opportunity: Auditions and casting calls for upcoming projects
Platform: Project Casting

Actors interested in being considered can join today by visiting ProjectCasting.com/login.

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Project Casting is a leading entertainment jobs platform that helps actors, models, content creators, and production professionals find casting calls, acting auditions, production jobs, and career-building opportunities. Project Casting is committed to helping talent discover real opportunities and build meaningful careers in the entertainment industry.

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